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“What I just saw was bullying and is not tolerated in this school”
“I overheard you calling him gay. Using that word as a put-down is not okay.”
Step 3: Support the Student Who Has Been Bullied. Remove Them From the Scene.
It is important to make sure the targeted student is okay.
Once you’ve checked in with them either send them back to class or to a counselor before speaking to those who were involved in bullying.
It is also important to let them know that you will be checking in with them later. This is key to building trust and showing that you care.
Step 4: Engage the Bystanders
If they were involved:
“Why were you laughing?”
“Why did you think it was okay to act this way?”
If they were trying to help the student that was being bullied, show praise and appreciation for their support.
Step 5: Address the Student That Was Bullying
Either impose immediate consequences or let them know consequences will occur and the behavior will not be tolerated.
This is not a time to debate or ask questions. This is a time to let them know the behavior was not okay, impose consequences, or refer to someone who can. A more in-depth discussion should happen later when emotions are not high.
Step 6: Follow up With Student Being Bullied
Best if done the same day.
Get details so you can determine appropriate consequences to the student who was bullying.
Reinforce that they deserve to be treated respectfully.
Remind them of the importance of telling an adult when bullying occurs.
Reminders and Tips:
First priority is to make sure the student being bullied feels supported.
Engage bystanders by asking questions. They should feel accountable.
Always talk to bullied student first to determine next steps and consequences.
Don’t engage in too much discussion with the student that bullied at time of incident. Be objective (state what you saw) and let them know it can be discussed more thoroughly later.
Credit: Cheryl Greene M.Ed., 2024. Adapted from Olweus Bullying Prevention Program
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